jamesbi1983 About


Hi, I'm a 31 year old bi guy looking for advice in this split personality/lifestyle as well as work out tips too. I don't know why it's hard for people to understand that guys (or girls) can be bisexual. I would bet that very few people are 100% gay or straight. No need for labels, we all like what we like. And how do you define sexuality anyway? Is it who you love? Or who you are sexually attracted to? Or who you have sex with? Well, my answers to those questions would be straight, bi, and gay, respectively. I have never had sex with a woman, this is true; I have had sex with men. I have been in love with women, but not men. I desire and appreciate attractive people of both genders physically and sexually. I want to marry a woman and live a straight life, and this is not because society says so, this is what I know I want. When I think about my future this is all I see. So then why am I not dating women and having sex with women? Where to begin...social anxiety disorder, lack of confidence, shyness, being in love with a girl I can't have and being a one-woman kind of man; the list goes on. I'm trying to figure myself out because I want to be able to be happy. Any advice you can give me about achieving this would be greatly appreciated. And I'd love to put on some muscle which can only help me out with this stuff ;) so any tips there would be awesome too!


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Sexual positionTop / Giver
EthnicityWhite / Caucasian
Body typeAthletic
Height6' 0"
Weight193 lbs
EducationGrad / professional school
ChildrenSome day


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Shared publicly - May 24 at 9:08am
I'd love some slow, sensual sex.
Love to do that with you man.
My desire also! Love to engage in some hot 4play ending in my hot ass being fucked bb
I'd love some of that, too
May 24 at 5:10pm
Me too
Nothing is more awesome than great foreplay, slow sensual sex
my favorite kind baby!!
May 27 at 10:41am
Right now I'd settle for some fast and hard ass pounding sex.
May 28 at 1:14pm
You and me both, slow and deep


Shared publicly - May 24 at 7:43am
Going commando at the gym--well not completely--I've got on those running shorts with a liner in them but it still feels naughty!
Commando and naughty in the same sentence is just wrong. Commando and free is better.
Re do , go just nylon , I got mine at kohls it feels amazing , lol I love commando ..
May 24 at 8:37am
Your Hot Man!!!
I wear those all the time, I love the way they feel! Not to mention that I get to show off a bit when I change into them in the locker room. ;-)
My gym attire of choice as well =)
May 24 at 1:59pm
That's so sexy :) Don't lift heavy without support down there though! Hahaha
nice, love a man that shows what he has to offer, so hot and sexy
May 24 at 8:56pm
Ditch the liner and see what happens
May 26 at 2:40am
Can't wait for the pics.

Would love to be sitting across from you while you workout so I could get glimpses up those shorts.
May 26 at 10:25am
I would love to be at your gym


Shared publicly - May 21 at 9:34am
Sweaty chest day with swoll pecs and triceps, soaked tshirt with hard, horny nips poking through! I need to fuck!
May 21 at 10:10am
My ass is all yours stud!!!
May 21 at 10:27am
Sounds Hot Man..
May 21 at 10:38am
God I love getting fucked by a sexy man when he's sweaty from the gym. I'd suck on those nips for hours.
May 21 at 11:30am
I just like getting fucked
May 21 at 11:08am
nice image hmmm
May 21 at 12:00pm
I could probably be talked into it.


Shared publicly - May 19 at 7:06am
I wonder if bisexual and gay men are (in general) more concerned with their own appearance because they are attracted to the same gender. Hear me out. I wouldn't be sexually attracted to a guy who looked like me, so that makes me want to improve and workout. Do we see ourselves as attractive or not based on what we are personally attracted to, whereas straight men don't compare themselves to what they are attracted to? Does that cause bisexual and gay men to also have lower self-esteem and body See more
Interesting questions. I agree with some of what you are saying but I believe a factor you left out was age. As a young man I was very concerned with my appearance based on what I thought others liked. Today I am still concerned about my appearance but it is based on what I want to look like and not what others thing. The result is I not only get offers from females but I am hit on by more men. To me, it comes down with being confident with who you are and what makes you comfortable.
May 19 at 9:36am
It is ultimately about confidence and being happy with who you are. I'm just saying that I think big, beefy, masculine guys are the hottest, so that's what I wish I was like. I find them attractive, so I would hope I would be seen as attractive too because I was like that. Obviously, everyone has different things and body types that they are attracted to, but self-perception and mental aspect are a huge part of confidence, so I think this affects a lot of people. They want to be a certain way, See more
May 19 at 12:48pm
The secret is to accept yourself for what you are. Improve what you like (like bigger muscles) but realize that you are you and the inside is what counts.
May 19 at 7:45am
I think you are basically right. However, as I've gotten older, I've come to terms with my body image. It is what it is. It also has made me more excepting of others. I've had some exceptional sex with men that did not have porn star quality bodies. I am now more attracted to men that want to give pleasure and have fun in bed then self absorbed hunks with six packs. I'm not judging, really, we were all there once. After I got over that I found out what glorious fun man on man sex could be.
May 19 at 9:38am
This is completely true--good sex comes from a good connection with someone and being passionate about it, not just if the people are hot or well equipped. I actually would be more intimidated being with a really hot person and less confident about my own body. But with self-perception, how we see ourselves, I think we know what we find attractive and part of that goes into wanting to be that way yourself, whatever aspect of a person that is, body, mind, interests, etc.
May 19 at 8:56am
I'm not sure there is a correlation between sexual orientation and body image. I've found countless gay/bi men who thought and said they were good looking, hot, athletic, fit--and I would never have used those adjectives to describe them :-) I think gay and bi men are like any men--some are very comfortable in their skin and others are less so. In my own life, I was also more self conscious as a young man than I am now. In part it was because I had serious acne when I was young which really bothered See more
May 19 at 9:43am
I appreciate the compliment and I do still fall into that trap though. I don't believe that I am attractive even if someone says so. I justify it that they are just trying to get into my pants or get me to show them my dick or something. And it's because of my lack of confidence that I compare myself to other guys who I think are hot, athletes especially, and feel inferior because I am not as fit and muscular and, to me, attractive as they are. Sometimes it's hard to believe in yourself and be See more
May 19 at 10:12am
Yes, I think you hit the nail on the head. Poor body image and self esteem among Gay and Bi-sexual is driven by the fallacy of believing we will attract other men depending on how we appear. However, not everyone is attracted to men who look like themselves (narcissism?), ...as the saying goes, sometimes opposites attract.

Gay, Bi, Straight, or otherwise.... the most sexy way any man can appear is confident in himself. Self confidence is MUCH sexier than being the twinkiest twink, the ultimate
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May 19 at 10:44am
Well you've certainly got us thinking. I do believe gay men are a bit more judging, which is not good, but straight guys do care as well, and there's plenty of them worried about their looks. Media plays a big deal, with all the hunky guys Pretty much everywhere these days, and magazines and well, even in your underwear packaging. Ripped men are now what skinny girls were during the 90s and 2000s. That being said, I think taking care of your body and image should be about loving yourself rather than See more
May 19 at 10:48am
You're right and unfortunately the ideal isn't always what goes on in everyone's head.
May 19 at 10:51am
Agreed, difference is what makes us special :) we should take

It from there.


Shared publicly - May 12 at 9:58am
I just watched the weirdest porn but it was kinda hot---2 trannies, man and woman, so the man with a pussy got fucked but the girl with a dick so it was really straight porn, a cock fucking a pussy, but almost reversed, so the real girl looked like a dude and the real guy looked like a girl. well I got hard regardless.
May 12 at 10:02am
is this one those fucked up math equation questions , cause I lost you at I .....
May 12 at 10:04am
It's really not difficult, it's a man fucking a woman, penis in pussy, like normal. but they are both transsexual evidently. the woman has cut off her boobs and hair and looks like a skinny guy. the man has added boobs and long hair. but they still have their original sex equipment, penis and pussy. so the man who looks like a woman still has his penis and the woman who looks like a guy still has her vagina, so they fuck.
May 12 at 12:13pm
a joke james geezus , thanks for the gross anatomy of transgender life style .. lol... but question is can I see your pe pe again .. lol..
May 13 at 12:26am
Why is the human body gross?
May 15 at 11:15am
Never mind James you don't see my point , it's ok , two sides of one coin ..
May 12 at 2:34pm
In Gary Jenning's book Raptor, he describes a scene were two hermaphrodites have sex. That is certainly the weirdest sex scene ever!
May 12 at 3:40pm
Ok barefootdad wins ! Lol weird ...
May 12 at 5:00pm
Kind of sounded hot..lol
May 13 at 7:00am
Where can one find this porn at? Do you have the link? You know. For research purposes?
May 13 at 10:43am
I think it was on xhamster.com
May 13 at 9:23am
And where is this unusual cinema masterpiece?
May 15 at 9:06am
Awesome I'm so gonna explode
May 15 at 1:53pm
I agree

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Apr 17 at 10:12am
Have a Sexy Sunday.............................


Mar 30 at 12:48pm
Are you ready for Easter Bunny to bring you an Easter basket full of goodies? I am and do you want to know what kind of Easter basket I really want??? It's that beef stick and Easter eggs that's between your legs and I just love that kind of Easter treats as I know you do too cus I got some of that for you too... Happy Easter :)


Jan 25 at 12:31am
More pictures please. We need to see more of your sexy self.


Jan 12 at 2:50am
You're a stud. Would like to met you.


Jan 2 at 2:27pm
Sending you some Christmas Holiday Season Greetings and wishing you the best in coming 2016 New Year :)


Dec 15 2015 at 6:47pm
I agree with you. Like his policies or not, he's hot ;-)


Dec 13 2015 at 3:47pm
I too am in the same boat. Enjoy having sex with both, but romantically inclined towards women. I found the term Heteroromantic Bisexual, and it pretty much explained it to me.