jamesbi1983 About


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Hi, I'm a 31 year old bi guy looking for advice in this split personality/lifestyle as well as work out tips too. I don't know why it's hard for people to understand that guys (or girls) can be bisexual. I would bet that very few people are 100% gay or straight. No need for labels, we all like what we like. And how do you define sexuality anyway? Is it who you love? Or who you are sexually attracted to? Or who you have sex with? Well, my answers to those questions would be straight, bi, and gay, respectively. I have never had sex with a woman, this is true; I have had sex with men. I have been in love with women, but not men. I desire and appreciate attractive people of both genders physically and sexually. I want to marry a woman and live a straight life, and this is not because society says so, this is what I know I want. When I think about my future this is all I see. So then why am I not dating women and having sex with women? Where to begin...social anxiety disorder, lack of confidence, shyness, being in love with a girl I can't have and being a one-woman kind of man; the list goes on. I'm trying to figure myself out because I want to be able to be happy. Any advice you can give me about achieving this would be greatly appreciated. And I'd love to put on some muscle which can only help me out with this stuff ;) so any tips there would be awesome too!

****IF ANY BI GUYS HAVE PICS OR VIDS WITH YOUR WIFE/GF/ANY GIRL, AND YOU'D LIKE TO SHARE, PLEASE LET ME KNOW! I'D LOVE TO SEE THEM!****

Basic Information

StatusSingle
Here forFriends
Sexual positionTop / Giver
EthnicityWhite / Caucasian
Body typeAthletic
Height6' 0"
Weight185 lbs
SmokeNo
DrinkYes
OrientationBisexual
EducationGrad / professional school
ReligionOther
ChildrenSome day

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jamesbi1983

Aug 23 at 10:09am
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jamesbi1983

Shared publicly - Aug 19 at 10:20am
Do people really post pictures of their ASSHOLE and think "hey, this will be sexy to other people"? Seriously, it's not, even for me as a top.
Aug 19 at 10:47am
Very true ,not a turn on for me...
Aug 19 at 11:25am
Agreed
As a bottom, I've gotten a lot of requests for such pics. Some guys like to have you "spread the cheeks and show the hole".
Well those are probably from tops who just want to use a good hole and nothing more.
everybody's got their turn on buttons. ..... and we aren't all the same ;)
Aug 19 at 1:34pm
"Different strokes for different folks." said the old lady as she kissed a pig, though i did graduate from the anal stage to the oral stage at around age 4.
Aug 19 at 1:42pm
Sometimes a back side can be pretty hot
A butt is different than an asshole.
Aug 19 at 2:01pm
So very true
Aug 19 at 7:13pm
Tottally agreed about this, I'm bttm and never feel like wanna show my ass hole, like for real people? What's attractive to "the hole" lol
There are those of us who do like to see men's ass holes . . . you're not required to look . . . just move on & ignore it.

If we were to eliminate everything from the world that is offensive to anyone . . . .there'd be no world left.
Aug 21 at 11:47pm
That has to be the best way I have ever heard any one encourage tolerance, without being bitchy or scolding. Just wanted to say I aprreciated reading your response.
Aug 21 at 11:57pm
Thanks, man.
Aug 20 at 7:47pm
Being a total bottom,I do agree,I think it is way more sensual ,get to things as time unfolds.Just a personal thought.
Aug 22 at 1:07pm
I'd much rather see a nice round tushie and a front end at firm attention
Aug 22 at 1:45pm
Congrats to James on coming up with a topic that is generating so much discussion.

jamesbi1983

Shared publicly - Aug 14 at 8:20am
I need some advice. One of my best friends is a former FWB, but he has a fiancee (guy) now and we haven't had sex in almost 2 years. They are getting married in a few weeks but all summer that I've been hanging out with them, I feel like they have been dropping hints about a threeway. I'm not sure because nothing has happened and I've been alone with them many times and drinking, so it easily could have. I'm not sure if they are afraid to approach me about it too aggressively. They speak rather openly See more
Aug 14 at 8:31am
I say go for it! It could be that they both want to enjoy a last sexual fling before getting married! Just make it clear it is just sex!
Aug 14 at 8:34am
I just don't want to offend them if they don't mean to have a 3way, they could bring it up if that's what they really wanted. I'm just not sure if they want me to get naked with them or if they are just talking sexual around me.
I am not into open relationships I think its just trouble waiting to happen .you should go with your feelings ,I am no expert.
Aug 14 at 8:40am
I'm assuming they don't have an open relationship, obviously they love each other and want to be married and spend their life together, but sometimes sex is just sex, and they are both more bottoms, versatile bottoms, but i could see a situation where they were open so that each could get fucked but someone else sometimes, whether it be for a bigger cock or just someone who more enjoys being a top. They have their lovemaking but sometimes sex is just physical too.
Aug 14 at 8:43am
Very true ,and I guess if it is what they want it will be you or someone else,but maybe you could just ask and see what there looking for if they talk so openly.
Aug 14 at 8:46am
I've tried to drop hints that I'd be open to it and that I'm sexually frustrated, in a dry spell, need to find 2 guys so I have one on each nip, stuff like that, but it still hasn't materialized yet. Maybe after the wedding.
Aug 14 at 8:48am
well if there into it and it doesn't bother you what the hell..
Aug 14 at 8:49am
Yeah I mean I'd totally be into it, my friend is hot as fuck, the sex was hot as fuck, and his bf seems like fun too, i'm sure we'd have a great time.
Aug 14 at 8:52am
sounds good,i do know of a lot that play together and others that wont,maybe you to talk to your friend one on one and see what there looking for.
Aug 14 at 8:55am
that's just not an easy conversation to have, asking if i can violate the sanctity of their relationship and soon-to-be marriage.
Aug 14 at 8:57am
Yes that's true and tell him that.
If they really want to have a 3some with you, they will come right out and any it. Don't spoil the good relationship you have with them.
Based on your continued responses, I feel you've answered your own question.
Dont do it. Even if theybare interested. You dont want to be the excuse other people have drama.
Personally, I say go to your friend first. Take him aside and talk to him. For one thing, open communication isn't to for romantic relationships. They also go the same for friendships. And for another thing, you two have had sex already. So the conversation isn't too far off base. Tell him this is a serious conversation and not just you being flirtatious or joking around. Reassure him you aren't trying to come between them or disrespect their relationship. Rather you have noticed their flirting and See more
Stay clear! If their relationship is not strong enough to get to the honeymoon with just the 2 of them then a wedding is a time bomb waiting to happen. A divorce is far different and more serious than a break up and you do not want to be near nor involved in it.
I would let it ride guy just asking for complications among friends
Aug 15 at 4:25pm
Men ARE different than women and not as hung up on monogamy. I'd simple ask if there's a chance you could all play together. That should NOT intimidate or disrespect anyone. They should respect you for being honest and open. I would.

Hope this helps man.
Aug 15 at 10:21pm
Marriage is not just a casual hook up - especially at the fragile beginning.

It is a fire and people too close get burned bad.
Aug 15 at 10:43pm
Marriage is an archaic custom meant to justify the ownership of women,
Let it go, Elsa, just let it go
I'd say since they are the ones that would have the issue, let them bring it up.
Aug 16 at 4:55pm
casually mention you're interested...tell them it's on your bucket list
Aug 17 at 6:44pm
i WOULD GET THEM TOGETHER & CASUALLY MENTION THAT ONE OF YOUR FANTASIES IS TO HAVE A 3 WAY. BUT BE CAUTIOUS THAT ONE DOES NOT TURN ON YOU AFTER FLIF YOU DONT MIND IRTING AND THEN PUT ON THE JEALOUS THING. OR YOU COULD MENTION TO THEM CASUALLY AND ASK THEM IF THEY EVER HAD A 3 WAY. *** THIS IS FOR SURE IF YOU WANT TO KEEP THEM AS FRIENDS THEN YOU SHOULD STAY AWAY SEXUALLY.
I don't want to pry into their sex life. That's very private. And I have had a 3way with my bud (with other people) so he knows I like them sometimes and I have even mentioned that I need to find a couple so I can have 1 on each nip. I mean if they have an open relationship, he could be having sex with just me if he wanted to (and he hasn't) or if they do 3ways they could have offered it to me already, just might be that they aren't open but might have a 3way but the bf isn't into me as much See more
Aug 18 at 3:24pm
I think you will know sooner or later.

jamesbi1983

Shared publicly - Aug 13 at 7:26pm
Which Olympians have the nicest bulges? Swimming? Track? Gymnastics?
Aug 13 at 10:54pm
Michael Phelps drives me fucking crazy...
I think the biggest ones are in Track on all the black guys.
Aug 14 at 8:40am
You have the nicest bulge :)
Aug 15 at 4:28pm
Swimmers and divers leave the least to the imagination. Gymnasts are my kryptonite.
Aug 16 at 6:50am
I would say you do
Aug 16 at 2:42pm
wrestlers and gymnasts get me going.

jamesbi1983

Shared publicly - Aug 11 at 10:27am
Working out gets me so horny and makes my nips so hard.
Aug 11 at 11:19am
although i did like you b4 you started working out. but if that makes up more horny now then :) let's do a workout :D 1 2 up n suck 1 2 up n suck :D lol xoxoo looking great my friend :)
Aug 11 at 1:06pm
Wish i was there
Aug 11 at 11:13pm
I thought I was the only one with that problem lol
Aug 12 at 2:13am
Fucking wish I was near by to take care of your needs.
Aug 12 at 3:11am
Love to play with nips that are hard.
Aug 13 at 7:44am
Show us:)
Aug 13 at 10:29am
I have nip pics, all my pics were taken after working out.
Aug 14 at 8:42am
oh yes and I have seen them all,so awesome

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GayTeenCooper

Aug 9 at 4:39pm
Thanks for the add, stud!!!!!!

JOCKCOCK911

Apr 17 at 10:12am
Have a Sexy Sunday.............................

Deviant_D

Mar 30 at 12:48pm
Are you ready for Easter Bunny to bring you an Easter basket full of goodies? I am and do you want to know what kind of Easter basket I really want??? It's that beef stick and Easter eggs that's between your legs and I just love that kind of Easter treats as I know you do too cus I got some of that for you too... Happy Easter :)