jamesbi1983 About


Hi, I'm a 31 year old bi guy looking for advice in this split personality/lifestyle as well as work out tips too. I don't know why it's hard for people to understand that guys (or girls) can be bisexual. I would bet that very few people are 100% gay or straight. No need for labels, we all like what we like. And how do you define sexuality anyway? Is it who you love? Or who you are sexually attracted to? Or who you have sex with? Well, my answers to those questions would be straight, bi, and gay, respectively. I have never had sex with a woman, this is true; I have had sex with men. I have been in love with women, but not men. I desire and appreciate attractive people of both genders physically and sexually. I want to marry a woman and live a straight life, and this is not because society says so, this is what I know I want. When I think about my future this is all I see. So then why am I not dating women and having sex with women? Where to begin...social anxiety disorder, lack of confidence, shyness, being in love with a girl I can't have and being a one-woman kind of man; the list goes on. I'm trying to figure myself out because I want to be able to be happy. Any advice you can give me about achieving this would be greatly appreciated. And I'd love to put on some muscle which can only help me out with this stuff ;) so any tips there would be awesome too!


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Sexual positionTop / Giver
EthnicityWhite / Caucasian
Body typeAthletic
Height6' 0"
Weight196 lbs
EducationGrad / professional school
ChildrenSome day


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Jan 12 at 10:04am
Updated profile.


Shared publicly - Jan 7 at 9:31am
I'm so weird. I don't get hard seeing someone hot or someone naked, or even watching porn. I guess there's a purely physical aspect to my arousal, when I'm jacking off, and a very emotional aspect to my arousal, when I think about sensually and passionately having sex with someone, and those rare times I've actually gotten to do it. I'm so weird.
I'm kind of the same. I used to only download pics that I felt that I could make a fantasy about and they were always, I mean ALWAYS, very intimate. Not only being exposed physically, but emotionally with the fantasy character. Truth be told, I've probably been to a bath house more times than you have hairs on your head, but can count on ONE hand how many times I actually hooked up with someone. I need to make a "connection" with the person before I can even do what I call a "Wham-Bam-Thank-you-Sam". See more
You are not weird!!!
A bit young to get burned out like that. I've read studies that claim excessive porn exposure desensitizes you, creating more stimuli needs, escalating your minimum erotic threshold. It's like the first time you saw a boob, then you need more and more and more. I think we also determine those things we prefer and all the rest is sorta "meh". Good luck with it.
I probably have too much exposure to porn and the desensitization is part of it.
Omg I used to think the same exact thing i went through these thoughts all last year, you are not alone a lot of men go through this, just because we arent sexual monsters like most of the horn balls we meet it doesn't make us weird. I can't get hard unless I have a strong emotional connection with someone. I found this out recently .. I've hookedup with quite a few guys this past couple yrs and i just couldnt get hard. Then recently i met this guy and it wasnt about sex we were just compatible and See more
Jan 9 at 5:51am
Same for me. I get all wet from precum but don't get hard. I know it works because I wake up with morning wood every day.
I'm the same way, I need physical simulation smith the help of a visual aid. Porn or pics of naked men turn me on mentally but I don't physically react either.
Jan 9 at 2:10pm
How many guys have you been with?
Jan 9 at 6:12pm
I lost count years ago. Many many many many men.
Jan 19 at 2:33am
Hi bud I'm Steve


Shared publicly - Jan 2 at 11:37am
I need to find someone who appreciates the amazing sensuality and eroticism of nips, both on the giving and receiving ends.
Jan 2 at 11:40am
My nips are like a light-switch -- one touch and I am instantly turned on. Needless to say, I go crazy for nipple-play.
It's not easy to find.
Jan 2 at 11:44am
You're right, it's really not. Most guys never consider nipples to be erogenous zones -- so they completely ignore them.
I love a guy who plays with my nips

I don't know why all men don't enjoy nipple play--I certainly do--although I must confess it took me a while to figure out that I did! Maybe other men just need to be shown the way!
Oh yes love having my Nips being played with Hmmm
Jan 2 at 12:04pm
OMG I swear my nipples are hardwired to my cock!
I love tit play, both giving and receiving. Love having my nips sucked and chewed, I can't seem to get enough of it!
Jan 2 at 2:05pm
YES!!!!! Totally with you on that!!!! So damn hard to find. Least close enough to be able to do anything about it with!!
LOVE to have my hard nips worked as well....in face, I've cum hands-free with just hot nipple play!
I have done that to my friend who has even more sensitive nipples than myself, want to see if it can be done to me.
Jan 3 at 1:05pm
Wish you were closer, so I could give it a try for you......very patient here......either you'd cum or your nips would be raw from so much play!! ;-)
Man I love playing with nips, touching , licking, sucking, tweeking. such wonderful play things
There is nothing better than working you nips to start sex. Love using Precum to Luba them and then have someone lick kiss and suck on them
shouldn't be hard - many men just don't realize how erotic nip play is! for me, play with my nips and my cock gives you a nice reaction! and yes - precum on the lips is even more sensual and erotic. meanwhile, keep enjoying your nips even when alone!
not everyone has sensitive nips that get super hard and make them moan as you work them, with a guy I have frequently made him leak tons of precum and even made him shoot his load without touching his cock.
I TOTALLY hear you on this....love having mine played with, licked, sucked, rubbed....DRIVES me FUCKING NUTS and gets the precum flowing!!!!! Love to play with yours/ours together!!!!!
Oh Man! Look no further. Mine aren't sensitive, but I LOVE work a guys that are. I'm very skilled with my fingers and mouth.
Feb 5 at 9:15am
Oh buddy.....come on over!!!
Feb 6 at 1:54am
Did I not know your nips were wired? Just one more thing to make me crazy over you.


Shared publicly - Dec 31 2015 at 8:46am
My new year's resolution is simply to go on a date for the first time. Sure we all want to find love and get married and all that, but I can't ask for too much.
If I could then I would totally go out on a date with you. :*
Dec 31 2015 at 10:25am
I hope your wish cums true!!! 😊
Dec 31 2015 at 9:30pm
If you were nort to far away would love to meet you
Dec 31 2015 at 9:54pm
date with a guy?
Jan 1 at 11:31am
Jan 16 at 3:45pm
Fair enough. All the best, mate


Shared publicly - Dec 30 2015 at 9:27am
I wish there was someone who wanted me to make love to them.
Dec 30 2015 at 9:29am
I would love for you to make love to me
Dec 30 2015 at 9:36am
Wish I could take you up on that offer sexy!
Dec 30 2015 at 9:50am
if you were close by sure
Dec 30 2015 at 11:59am
It sure must be nice to have so many hot men on here who want you to make love to them? ;-)
Dec 30 2015 at 3:17pm
Nobody in real life which was my premise.
Jan 1 at 6:59pm
Hope you know there's a hell of a lot of guys out there that would love to make love with you and our serious about it. And I'm one definitely one of them. I know it's hard, but believe in yourself ;)
Dec 30 2015 at 11:59am
you can make love to me anytime you want............mmmmmmmmmmm!!!!!!!!!!!
Dec 30 2015 at 1:12pm
I do!
Dec 30 2015 at 4:37pm
I do, just let me know
Dec 30 2015 at 4:38pm
I do
Dec 31 2015 at 6:38am
I'd let you make love to me anytime and often!
Don't give up, you'll find love!
Feb 2 at 10:47pm
Wow baby I wish I had to make love to me

Profile Comments


Jan 25 at 12:31am
More pictures please. We need to see more of your sexy self.


Jan 12 at 2:50am
You're a stud. Would like to met you.


Jan 2 at 2:27pm
Sending you some Christmas Holiday Season Greetings and wishing you the best in coming 2016 New Year :)


Dec 15 2015 at 6:47pm
I agree with you. Like his policies or not, he's hot ;-)


Dec 13 2015 at 3:47pm
I too am in the same boat. Enjoy having sex with both, but romantically inclined towards women. I found the term Heteroromantic Bisexual, and it pretty much explained it to me.



Nov 12 2015 at 11:34am
HOT pics


Nov 3 2015 at 5:42pm
Thanks for the add, Hugs, Lee


Oct 20 2015 at 1:58pm
Nice to see you back again, cum back often


Sep 30 2015 at 10:50am
such a fucking hot body man. Damn what a stud man


Sep 1 2015 at 11:59pm
great new pics!