jamesbi1983 About


Hi, I'm a 31 year old bi guy looking for advice in this split personality/lifestyle as well as work out tips too. I don't know why it's hard for people to understand that guys (or girls) can be bisexual. I would bet that very few people are 100% gay or straight. No need for labels, we all like what we like. And how do you define sexuality anyway? Is it who you love? Or who you are sexually attracted to? Or who you have sex with? Well, my answers to those questions would be straight, bi, and gay, respectively. I have never had sex with a woman, this is true; I have had sex with men. I have been in love with women, but not men. I desire and appreciate attractive people of both genders physically and sexually. I want to marry a woman and live a straight life, and this is not because society says so, this is what I know I want. When I think about my future this is all I see. So then why am I not dating women and having sex with women? Where to begin...social anxiety disorder, lack of confidence, shyness, being in love with a girl I can't have and being a one-woman kind of man; the list goes on. I'm trying to figure myself out because I want to be able to be happy. Any advice you can give me about achieving this would be greatly appreciated. And I'd love to put on some muscle which can only help me out with this stuff ;) so any tips there would be awesome too!


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Sexual positionTop / Giver
EthnicityWhite / Caucasian
Body typeAthletic
Height6' 0"
Weight194 lbs
EducationGrad / professional school
ChildrenSome day


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Mar 26 at 9:36am
Updated profile.


Shared publicly - Mar 20 at 10:51am
I need a vacation, but how is a single person supposed to do that?
simply book a flight. then, go to the places where you can think that you unwind and enjoy freely your vacation. maybe, you'll meet 'the one' then. goodluck! :)
take a vacation to where a friend is, maybe become even closer than a friend or just have fun with him
I've gone to Toronto many times by myself and met great people and had lots of fun ;)
It's called an "Adventure Vacation" go for it :)
Mar 20 at 12:57pm
On many vacations I have met single men on holiday traveling alone. They had fun!
a beach trip is great and not to expensive....or go with a friend somewhere? I went with Out Adventures and was not too expnsive and gay tour was fun but next for me will be New Orleans and then a beach somewhere to do nothing but watch men in Speedos hehehe
Two words for you hot man..."GAY CRUISE". A hot Top like you won't be alone for long. I'm sure you'd be "busy" as much as you'd want.
when u find out let me know. i did it once and it was so lonely, good luck
If meet up with you and show you a good time for days. I wouldn't stop sucking your cock.
I been single for 7 years. and all my vacations have been alone trips. you will be surprised how much fun it is. yes, I agree it would be better with a BF.. but don't let that stop you from taking trips.
You're free to go wherever you want anytime you want....don't depend on someone else for your happiness...I could think of many amazing things to do alone....you'll be surprised what you meet along the way!!! If you really want someone....stop looking so hard....you will meet who you are meant to meet....when the time is right....in the meantime enjoy your freedom!!!
I have the same issue, but I have gone alone to some places. It's nots overly exciting, but its a vacation none the less. Really like beach vacations where I can lay at the beach or pool wearing my speedo looking for hot guys.
Mar 29 at 8:16am
HedonismII Jamaica, great place to go single


Shared publicly - Mar 14 at 10:38am
The scientific penis size poll had the average at 5.16" globally. Our smaller sample size, unscientific poll on here is 1-2" larger than that. So either people inflate their number, or bi and gay dudes just have bigger dicks! ;) https://www.lifeout.com/polls/16254
Please vote if you haven't already!
or maybe guys with bigger dicks readily participate in polls about penis length
True but possible with both studies.
Guys inherently inflate their penis size on the Internet. I've been with a number of guys who, online, say they have penises of 7 or 8 inches and when it comes time to meet, their penises mysteriously shrink to 5 and 6 inches.
Yes I have seen that a lot also.
Its not the size of their cock its how they can use it effectively. I agree some do inflate their sizes but if they know how to use it properly size really doesn't matter.
a lot of guys don't know how to measure properly and give out a bigger number. the correct way to measure is from base to tip on the TOP of the penis. most measure from sac to tip on the bottom.
and you also have to factor in body fat. it can hide anywhere from an inch to most of your penis.
Mar 14 at 5:35pm
we can only hope!! hahaha
Mar 14 at 8:36pm
Gay and Bi dudes have bigger penis sizes. Kentucky guys have the biggest ones I have ever seen or had. Mine is 9 inches hard and 5 inches soft. I am proud of Mr. Happy even though he has gotten me into trouble a few times. LOL
I've always thought that gay's often have bigger dicks, in fact I actually read that before as well...but who knows the level of truth there
The point here isn't whether size matters, but rather that most guys have anxiety about whether they are big enough. Everyone lies and most people should be comfortable knowing they are perfectly average and that there is nothing wrong with them.
According to this clinical study, it's not an exaggeration--gay men do in fact have larger penis lengths than heterosexual men; this study suggests larger penis and homosexuality may both be linked to variations in prenatal hormonal levels http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/10410197


Shared publicly - Mar 7 at 9:21pm
I need to be kissed and touched. It's been months since I've even touched anyone in a non-sexual way.
I know I am one of many people here who wish we lived close enough to share that touch, that kiss with you!
I love caressing in a loving way without it being sexual :)
i need to be kissed and touched also wanna come over haha


Shared publicly - Mar 6 at 10:29am
It's so difficult to be insanely attracted to someone you can't have. It's even more difficult when there are two. :(
Mar 6 at 10:36am
Been there done that. :-(
Mar 6 at 11:55am
Yeah I know what you mean ;-/
Mar 6 at 6:36pm
Yup that is for sure
Mar 6 at 7:01pm
That is the truth :/ I am dealing with that right now and it sucks
Mar 7 at 10:58am
Yep...Not a good feeling!!!
It's a girl or a guy?
know how you feel, even worse when you both know it and he says all he wants is a good friend right now

Profile Comments


Mar 22 at 9:37am
Thanks for the add!!


Mar 6 at 12:26am
Thanks for posting the newest pics. You look great! Your workouts have really paid off!


Feb 15 at 6:45pm
Hey You... Yes You... I got a nice Valentines Day treat for you that your just going to love so why don't you cum and lick and eat it till you get to the juicy center and rim it real good and while your doing that I'll suck on your manhood lollipop and then we can switch postions I'm sure you'll enjoy it and so will I, but you know since both our asses are all moist and prepped let's also fuck our brains out while were at it too now wouldn't that be great... Happy Valentines Day :)


Feb 14 at 2:29pm
Thank you for viewing my profile, I appreciate you taking your time. I hope that you are doing well and that life is treating you great.

Hugs + Tugs | Chris


Feb 9 at 9:35am
looking good man...


Feb 8 at 8:58pm
Don't let the fear of zombies ruin a good time! Apocalypse my ass, these boys STILL take it! Have a great day!


Feb 8 at 11:31am


Feb 4 at 8:12pm
Good luck man but you are in a tough spot. My advice is have sex with a woman ASAP. You need to know what it is like. Doesn't matter who. Even pay for it if you have to. You need to know.


Jan 22 at 9:33am
Great profile. Good luck with finding what it will take you to be happy. It might be closer than you think. You have a great perspective.


Dec 23 2014 at 10:45am
Happy to add you as a friend...thank you for sending the request...and you already look great ...anxious to follow your development...