NiceGuy81VA About

Recent Updates and happenings – I try to put the most critical life updates here up at the top. If anything is making you scratch your head here, just read the full profile down below it will make sense.

December 12, 2023 – So a rather huge thing occurred over Thanksgiving… I came out to my sister as a gay Dom, and she was cool with it. This is quite a huge thing because she is the first family member to actively know and accept me completely. It’s definitely new and nice to have things like this.

Greetings and salutations!

*Take the time to read the profile, you’ll learn a lot about me that other people tend to ask often. If you don’t you may wind up shocked when I don’t fit what you might be looking for.

I was born in early March, 1981. Born in North Carolina.

I’m searching for connections for any of the following: Friends, Friends with benefits, Fuckbuddies, submissive guys, submissive guys seeking a Master or Owner, and guys who like to bottom.

I’m a Dom Total Top here and I’ll get into that further down.

A BIT ABOUT ME, MY PAST, AND PRESENT:

Over the years I grew up I lived in Caribou, ME; Suffolk, UK; Rome, NY; and Williamsburg, VA.

I’ve been to a good deal of Europe as a kid: Paris, Brussels, Stockholm, Athens, Edinburgh, London, Germany. Have a grandmother in Lancaster, PA. Sister in Roanoke, VA. Living with my parents at present due to my health issues I’ll get to later. I’ve been to some of PA, NY, NJ, MA, ME, OH, NC, SC, GA, and TN. Was in California twice long ago. Been to Niagara Falls once and Toronto once. I have also been to Mexico twice. Love travelling when I get the chance and can afford it.

I am not out to my parents and friends who interact directly with my parents, beyond that I don’t care who knows. My sister does know I am a gay Dom, and is cool with it, I appreciate her acceptance big time. I know what I am, I’m comfortable with it, I just choose to put family first because we’re small and I may at some point be all they have and I do not want to cut that off from them. I respect your choices on the matter, I ask that you respect mine.

RELATIONSHIP STATUS:

Unavailable.

I am not looking for boyfriends, husbands, or LTRs of a romantic nature. If you want to talk to me about a relationship as Dom and sub, read further down.

My status as single briefly changed from 2017-2019. I got as far as being engaged until he broke it off. I am over him. If he dares to come back he had damn well better have changed, but highly doubt it so oh well, life goes on. I will not be looking for a replacement. At least not for a very long time.

If and when I do though, they must accept me for who and what I am, my lifestyle, my household, etc. I will not change who or what I am for anyone.

If you’re seeking monogamy, keep going. Sex can have many forms, not just love. There’s primal, hormonal, a friendly fun activity, etc. And Love can be just as strong between anyone people willing and wanting to make it work.

Just because I fuck someone doesn’t mean I want to marry them. Nor does it mean we have the connection to be married. The connection was what it was a physical romp.

And for those who question lack of monogamy, I’ll let you in on something. Any random sex I have been allowed to have while with my fiancé, had only made me appreciate my fiancé and want my fiancé sexually more. Don’t be so tight on the reigns, let your stallion go out for a romp when needed. You’ll find when you want to go for a ride, he’ll love it even more if he’s like me.

MY STATISTICAL INFORMATION:

I’m 5’8”, I’m currently 291lbs, somewhere around 36-40% body fat, 44-45” waist, 58” chest, little over 7”, decently thick, big head endowment. I have Auburn/red/brown hair, full beard. Ginger, but more “day walker” than full blown.

I’m a solid, chubby, muscle bear. Starting to grow soft from pandemic

I have spent many years in the gym, but due to health issues keep getting knocked off the horse. I try to get back into it when I am able, and am ever pursing to grown to be a huge muscle bear whether I get there or not.

I’m perfectly comfortable in my own skin as far as appearance goes. I’m confident and carry myself well.

I will discuss my health further down.

PERSONALITY:

I’m very laid back, casual, friendly, easy to approach, easy to get comfortable with and even easier to get along with. I’m strong, protective, helpful, caring, and naturally dominant. No need to be shy with me, yes, I will talk with you just say hello.

ZODIAC:

Astrological:

I’m a very atypical Pisces. I have very sharp intuition. I have an extremely big heart. Which yes, I do get taken advantage of because of that. I’m passionate, and loving to a fault. As I mentioned earlier, I found who I want to be with and regardless of what happens, he will always have my heart. Whatever he chooses to do with it is up to him.

Chinese: Gold Rooster.

HEALTH:

Fully Covid Vaccinated (Pfizer) – 2021, Boosted Jan 2022

I am drug and disease free.

I am dealing with several conditions however.

I have Autism Spectrum Disorder, formerly known as Asperger’s Syndrome. I am still learning about what specifically is wrong, but certain social situations and interactions I may mis-interpret in the least. I only have a mild case of it, so for the most part not a huge deal but in short I just think differently.

I have Crohn’s which is continuing to worsen right now it’s becoming a moderate case.

I have a lot of digestive issues along with that including IBS, heartburn, gas / bloating, and so forth.

I have a genetic gamma globulin deficiency which affects my immune system. I get a booster for it 1x a month by infusion, works like a charm, haven’t had so much as a cold in years infection wise.

I have hypothyroidism, which is an underactive thyroid. I have low testosterone along with it.

I deal with lymphedema in my legs, for some reason my lymph nodes collect lymphatic fluid in my legs especially in warm to hot weather so they can swell up. The cause is unknown as of yet.

I have a heat sensitivity, when everyone is comfortable at 68 degrees F in the room, I’m uncomfortable and sweating. I tend to keep things between 63-66 when I have the ability to like at hotels n such. I prefer to be cool than to be hot. So, I do enjoy cooler weather, but hate snow lol.

I have two forms of sleep apnea. Obstructive and Central sleep apnea. Obstructive is the most common form. I am on a BiPap machine now, used to be cpap.

I also have seasonal allergies. My sinuses react to barometer changes so sometimes right before, during or after storms I may be miserable.

I am pushing 300lbs in weight and desperately working to cut some of that, as it is beginning to create mobility and energy level issues. 50 of it is pandemic weight being with my other issues I had to hold up in my house and there’s not much room to do anything in it physically. I also have about 50 I was needing to burn before the pandemic hit. Definitely hoping to get back into a gym once I have enough weight lost to improve my mobility issues.

Also dealing with some further issues with my hands, had carpal tunnel, and now I am having further issues where I can’t use 3 fingers to show when someone says with your hand, show me 3, I have to use two fingers and my thumb at the moment.

I’ve also had significant hair loss due to medication. So I’m hanging on to what I have in hopes to turn this around.

I had 4 surgical procedures over the years. Carpel tunnel for both hands, sinus surgery and a groin hernia on my left side.

EMPLOYMENT:

Generally unemployed, working on Disability, also looking at work possibilities that do not require a ton of time or physical effort.

I am still sort of a mobile DJ and I have my own business, but due to my health I have not been able to pursue clients. I also have not been able to find anything at this point because I have way too many health issues and up to two weeks of each month is taken up by doctor’s appointments and routine procedures.

I am going to be starting the process to seek disability for now. I still have some possible employment options but they are long shots of pitching a position to businesses. So, we’ll see what happens.

As a result, at present I’m extremely tight budgeted. My travel for the last year was all with my fiancé or it was hobby related. The money dried up for the hobby at the moment. And the status of my relationship I’ve already mentioned.

HOBBIES:

I am a member of the Rebel Legion. I have been so for going on 13 years now. Presently taking a break like I mentioned. We make costumed appearances for charity; it is great fun for good causes.

Through that I became addicted to conventions. Particularly DragonCon in Atlanta, Georgia. I feel completely at home there among my fellow geeks.

Yeah, I’m a very big geek. Star Wars is my biggest, but I do love many other things, some popular, some obscure.

I love movies, music, computer gaming, hanging out, going for walks, working out when I am able to, going to theme parks, travelling when possible. Sex is a hobby for me yes, I get horny at least 2-3 times a day.

I am a HUGE hotel enthusiast. When I get chances to stay at nice hotels I do so. Enjoy and appreciate the instances where guys want to travel with me, let me pick the hotel so that it has all the stuff in it we can relax, enjoy and have fun in… yeah that fun hehe.

SEXUALITY:

I’m gay. I started out straight and just lost all interest in women and men have grown on me to where they are all I’m interested in. (“men” includes FtMs as well)

I’m into guys of a wide age range from 18 (proof of age required) to up to and through 70. Older guys that are 60 and have aged well look no older than 45/50 to me. I do have issues with older guys who look like my grandads though, I just can’t make that leap sorry.

Body Type wise I’m into all shapes and sizes. After all I am not a perfect body gym god myself.

If based on looking alone, I am drawn to guys who are more solid, have some muscle on them, have some meat on their bones, yet smaller than me, and guys really shorter than me 5’5” or shorter are a particular turn on. As are guys who are muscular and huge.

More specifically though I’m into individuals. Who you are attracts me more than anything else, the looks are a plus to me. I have a few black guys I meet up with on occasion, Latin guys, and so on. I am open to any guy of any age, race, or build, if who they are attracts me.

I prefer guys who are comfortable letting me be myself, which is a total top. The Dom bit isn’t a must, it’s an option. Total top is the must. I do not suck cock and I do not ever bottom nor will I ever. It would greatly complicate my Crohn’s. So, if you’re versatile or versatile top, and you’re willing to be the total bottom for our encounter, then we’re good. Try to convince me to do anything I’m not into, I will lose interest quickly.

As for the more basics what I’m into, I’m open to everything except being the one to give oral and receive anal. The rest is all good.

***I AM 100% A BAREBACK TOP. I AM DISEASE FREE TESTED FREQUENTLY DUE TO MY HEALTH ISSUES. IF YOU’RE NOT OPEN TO BAREBACK THEN FORGET IT I DON’T DO CONDOMS ANYMORE. IF YOU HAVEN’T TRIED BAREBACK THOUGH, AND WANT TO, I AM A PRETTY SAFE PERSON TO TRY IT WITH BEING THAT I’M CHECKED SO OFTEN BECAUSE OF MY HEALTH CONDITIONS. AND YES I FUCK TIL I CUM IN YOUR ASS, I DO NOT PULL OUT. ***

LIFESTYLE:

I am a Dominant guy. Specifically, I’m an Owner. I am in search of subs to claim to be a part of my household/family.

I’m open to all ages and races for consideration within the United States and Canada. I’ll only consider international subs if they have a means to relocate legally.

Yes, the end goal is to have a household that is self-sufficient.

If you’re seeking to be a sub in a household that will accept you, respect you, push you to be better, and let you be who and what you are so you can be happy in life. This maybe it, talk to me.

Those of you who do not get the lifestyle, you can skip this part, or if curious you can ask me about it.

On a short term or hookup instance yes, I do get into some Dom activities and fetishes, but as an Owner I’m more driven by taking care of and helping my subs reach their goals.

For those who have a submissive streak or are subs… some of the things I tend to get into are: bondage, discipline, humiliation, water sports, nipple torture, cbt, sensory deprivation, spankings, whippings, milking, and so on. Into something not listed? Ask, I probably am… Not into women, kids, animals, fisting, sounding, knives, needles, blood, scat, and other super extreme insane stuff that most doms would even find too crazy.

How many am I seeking to have? I have no set number.

As an Owner I claim for life and I do mean it. Which means subs older than me I will care for when they are unable to serve me, and will need new younger subs to replace them and to help me take care of the older ones. So, the number will always be in flux. Which means that potentially yes, if you’re a sub looking for this, there is probably room.

I am an Owner that does not believe in using fear, intimidation, force, etc. My subs have chosen to be owned by me and the serve me happily and willingly. I want my subs to be content, feel safe, and be happy. I respect what they are willing to do and I am more than happy to do what I do for them.

That’s about all I can think of, congratulations if you made it through the whole thing, its just over 5 pages in word! You get bonus points for reading it all! Not many do!

Bear Code: B5 f wv d g k s mv e r- p (updated 3/28/2019)

Profile: updated 12/28/2023