My personal philosophy:
--Sing like no one is listening
--Dance like no one is watching
--Smile like you have a secret
--Kiss like you love the taste
--Love like you can't be hurt
--Fuck like you're being filmed
--Suck like you haven't eaten in a week
If you send me a "Friend" request before we have ever exchanged messages, I will decline. The status of "Friend" is reserved for people I've already come to know -- in other words, guys who have already become my friend -- not for total strangers with whom I have never interacted. And just FYI, if we've never chatted and you're still a total stranger to me, why would I ever even consider sending you my direct email address or cell phone number? Duuuuuhhh!
I'm an educated, cultured, creative and emotionally stable older (mature) man who believes that a man's BRAIN is his biggest sex organ. So I rarely answer any message of less than 5 words (show me that you have solid communication skills, both spelling and grammar count!).
If you're more than 200 miles away from me, I probably won't be interested unless you have a great profile and/or wrote me a great message.
Professionally, I have been an actor, singer, violinist, community theatre manager and marketer of professional design (architecture, planning, engineering, surveying, environmental and construction management) services (with a national certification). My friends often tell me that I'm a true "left brain/right brain" person.
I think redheads are the sexiest men around. I'm a sucker for a handsome redhead - literally!! But I'll also suck a blonde, a brunette, or a guy with a shaved head, and even some guys with grey or white hair. It's about the personal chemistry (but not about chemicals!).
If you want to know more than this, invite me out for coffee/conversation, or send me a message of more than 5 words (again, spelling and punctuation count). One of my favorite passtimes is finding out what makes another man special.
Actually, I DO drink, but just a little. I was diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes a decade ago, so I only have an glass or two of wine on occasion. No hard liquor at all -- ever. And I never learned to like beer.
By the way, if you have the balls to show your balls, please have the balls to show your face!